Being brave isn’t being fearless
Being brave means you know the arena you are about to
walk into is uncomfortable and maybe even frightening.
Being brave means you walk into it anyway.
I will walk with you, one brave little step at a time.
Areas of Focus
Let’s be clear. There are many free and inexpensive resources out there to learn about white supremacy, racism, and educating children about race. I urge you to take advantage of these resources and take ownership of your learning.
There are also many educators, authors and professionals of color speaking their wisdom, sharing their talents and teaching their knowledge. Listen to them. Learn. Support them financially and pay them for their work.
If you have been listening and learning and are still stuck or feel paralyzed, if it feels like your emotions are holding you back from action that matters, then I am here for you.
To those who identify as white in America:
If you are here, you might be feeling outrage, sadness, embarrassment, shame, confusion, anxiety or powerlessness. Perhaps you feel all of those things at once along with a desire to do something about the insidious and devastating racism infecting our country. This is a 400 year old system, woven directly into the fabric of America, blanketing you with privilege.
But maybe you haven’t been aware of it before. Did you see yet another video on Facebook of a white police officer murdering a Black man? Did you read a book, attend a workshop, or hear a friend talk about white supremacy? Has your mind been opened to the possibility that you have unwittingly been participating in the very thing that made this injustice normal, expected and comfortable?
Are you uncomfortable?
Good.
Some white people have arrived at this point and have taken steps to educate themselves, get involved, and act. Some have examined their privilege in depth and are working to tolerate the discomfort involved in confronting racism.
Are you somewhere in that journey, but still in need of individual guidance? If so, you’ve come to the right place. Using my clinical training and personal experience, I will sit with you, one-on-one, and help you work through the obstacles that are holding you back from courageously taking actions that matter. I will walk alongside you on this journey until you don’t need me anymore.
I know that there are things you want to talk about but will not do so for fear of being judged. That’s understandable, but part of my mission is to help white people break their silence. In her book So You Want to Talk About Race, Ijeoma Oluo says, “We cannot understand race and racial oppression if we cannot talk about it. And we can never stop the racial oppression affecting millions of lives in this country if we do not understand how and why it has been able to hold such power over us for hundreds of years.” She goes on to say that “understanding, on its own, will never equal action.” So we must talk about it to understand it, and we must act.
I believe that you have a right to talk and learn in a space where you will not be judged. I offer you a space for facing fear, overcoming shame, understanding your white identity and discovering your capacity to make positive changes. My hope is that over time, you will learn to break your silence and be vulnerable in other spaces – in relationship, in community, with others. “If you are white and you don’t want to feel any of that pain by having these conversations, then you are asking people of color to continue to bear the entire burden of racism alone.” (Ijeoma Oluo)
Let’s be brave together, one little step at a time.
The first step is to set up a free, 15 minute phone consultation. Call me at:
About Me
Heidi Wood, MSW, LCSW
I am a licensed clinical social worker. I specialize in mental health therapy, parenting, and anti-racism. I earned my Master’s Degree from Smith College School for Social Work in 2006 and have many years of experience working with children, adolescents, and adults. Since 1995, the School for Social Work at Smith College has been committed to becoming an anti-racism institution and actively works towards this goal through their curriculum and community. My professional education is rooted in this commitment and since childhood, my personal development has been tied to the concept of equity. When I became a parent and moved from Arizona to Georgia, all that theory became reality.